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Why Pronouns Matter

Why Pronouns Matter
Pronouns are the common way we refer to each other in the third person: he/him/his, she/her/hers, they/them/theirs. The pronouns we use usually imply gender, though many of us never had to think about them before as we more commonly talk about people who identify with the sex they were assigned at birth. The reason why pronouns matter so much is because they are so intertwined with our identities.

Our gender identity comes with the pronouns we want to be referred by. A change in gender identity means a change in pronouns. Being considerate of someone’s pronouns lets them know you respect them as a person.

The Trevor Project 聽reports that transgender and nonbinary youth who report having their pronouns respected by all or most of the people in their lives attempted suicide at half the rate of those who did not have their pronouns respected.

Accidentally misgendering someone can happen, but before assuming, just ask!
How do you ask?

  • 鈥漌hat pronouns do you use?鈥
  • 鈥漌hat pronouns would you like for me to use?鈥

PRONOUNS IN A SENTENCE PRONUNCIATION
SHE/HER/HERS She wants you to use her pronouns
HE/HIM/HIS He wants you to use his pronouns
ZE/HIR Ze wants you to use hir pronouns Listen
THEY/THEM/THEIRS They want you to use their pronouns
CO/COS Co wants you to use cos pronouns
NO PRONOUN/NAME (USER THE PERSON’S NAMES INSTEAD OF A PRONOUN) ___ (name) wants to use ___ (name) pronouns
XE/XEM/XYR Xe wants you to use xem pronouns

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Gender inclusive practices:
鈥 Use inclusive, non-discriminatory language.

鈥 Make gender visible when it is relevant for communication.
鈼 Provide your gender pronouns on your name tag.
鈼 Include your pronouns in your email signature.

鈥 Only ask for sex or gender on applications if it’s critical or necessary information.

It can take time to get someone’s pronouns right. Apologize 聽if you make a mistake and try your best to correct it. Remember, respecting someone means also respecting their pronouns.

For more information about pronouns, check out the following resources:


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